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Things I was not prepared for #4 – Crying

20 Jan

I knew that my child would cry; all babies cry. Some cry more than others, and as I was a colicky baby I was prepared for the worst. We got lucky though – our baby is not much of a crier, in fact the first three months were relatively quiet. When our baby cried we were always able to easily soothe him, a long bout of crying would never last longer than four minutes. Quiet times have left the house and we now listen to our baby cry often and there is often not an easy or quick way to soothe him (but that is another issue for another post).

But that is not the crying that I am surprised by, it is my own crying that surprises me. I knew I would love my child and I knew that there would be aspects of parenting that I would find more difficult than others; but I was not prepared to be the mother that cries listening to the cries of her child. I thought I would be the tougher parent, the one who would not be afraid to make the tough choices and could handle protests. Well, I have found that I cannot. Not even a little.

Parenting is not easy, and now I see that I need to work on growing a slightly thicker skin.

 

Resolutions for 2012

23 Dec

I generally do not make New Year’s Resolutions; my birthday is December 31 and having to make a list of arduous tasks to start the day after my birthday is not appealing. However, I just finished reading  The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin and have decided to embark on my own mini happiness project. Gretchen inspired me to focus on making myself happy and letting that happiness improve the moods of people around me. As a new mom (although I expect most parents feel like this), doing anything for me impossible and my personality makes taking time for me that much more difficult as I am always putting others’ needs ahead of my own.

My goal is that in doing a few things for me, I will  be a better parent, partner, friend, and person. Also, I think Gretchen makes a sound argument for the fact that focusing on your own happiness is not selfish, especially when your mood affects the moods and wellbeing of others around you. Therefore, I have decided to allow myself to do more for me and to not feel selfish about focusing some energy on making me happy.

I have organized my resolutions into things I will do for me, and then resolutions that focus on my partner, my child, other people, and my dogs. As Gretchen did, I made a resolutions chart where I will chart my success and keep myself on track. Now that I have everything all set-up, I’m taking a breather before the “hard work” of focusing on me in 2012!

Hello world!

3 Oct

Welcome to my blog. I am a new mom trying to maintain my physical and mental health, while also trying to care for and  appropriately stimulate my child, take care of my two dogs, take care of my relationship with my partner, and all the other adult things that need to be done. I hope through my successes and failures I can at least entertain and at most help people. My experience is limited, but growing daily!