Archive | December, 2011

Holiday Traditions

27 Dec

I never felt like I had to do a “good job” celebrating holidays,  but with a child I now feel like it is imperative that we celebrate holidays consistently and in “big” and “right” ways. Needless to say, this made the holidays stressful this year as everything we did felt like a lifelong commitment; every food, song, decoration was an aspect of the holiday we would need to recreate every year so our child and future children could grow up with fun, quirky, and special family traditions and memories.

Maybe we put too much pressure on ourselves.

To further complicate celebrating, our families do not live near us, and do not live near each other, so including Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, and Cousins is not particularly easy (flying with a child adds a whole new dimension to the travelling experience).

We definitely put too much pressure on ourselves!

But, we did have some great holiday successes. We’ve settled on a meal that is both tasty and in the spirit of the holidays, and we have some festive decorations that are the right combination of tacky and fun. Most importantly, with all the hectic preparations, travel, and photo taking we were able to find time to just enjoy this time together – the most special part of any holiday.

Resolutions for 2012

23 Dec

I generally do not make New Year’s Resolutions; my birthday is December 31 and having to make a list of arduous tasks to start the day after my birthday is not appealing. However, I just finished reading  The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin and have decided to embark on my own mini happiness project. Gretchen inspired me to focus on making myself happy and letting that happiness improve the moods of people around me. As a new mom (although I expect most parents feel like this), doing anything for me impossible and my personality makes taking time for me that much more difficult as I am always putting others’ needs ahead of my own.

My goal is that in doing a few things for me, I will  be a better parent, partner, friend, and person. Also, I think Gretchen makes a sound argument for the fact that focusing on your own happiness is not selfish, especially when your mood affects the moods and wellbeing of others around you. Therefore, I have decided to allow myself to do more for me and to not feel selfish about focusing some energy on making me happy.

I have organized my resolutions into things I will do for me, and then resolutions that focus on my partner, my child, other people, and my dogs. As Gretchen did, I made a resolutions chart where I will chart my success and keep myself on track. Now that I have everything all set-up, I’m taking a breather before the “hard work” of focusing on me in 2012!